Why do men walk away in the early stages of dating?
Have you ever wondered why men pull away in the early stages of dating? Things seem to start very well. The guy calls or texts you constantly, he tells you that he really likes you; he says that he hasn’t had feelings like this since his last serious relationship, etc. He’s giving you all these signs that he really likes you and then at some point he suddenly seems cold and distant. Why is that?
I’m going to let you in on a little secret now; many men are insecure. One reason so many men say all these nice things and tell you how interested they are in you is because they’re simply trying to figure out if they really like you; they will tell you they have strong feelings and then see how you react. Are you really excited when they say something like that or do you start backing off? Not all men play these types of games and many men don’t even realize they are doing it, but many men are insecure and trying to get information. They want to know if you like them or not.
The problem is that once a man has the information he’s been looking for, he can start to change. In the early stages of a relationship, everyone wants to be liked. People will often put up a front and try to project a personality of the type of person they think other people would be interested in. Once a man realizes that you really like him, he will stop acting and start being himself. That can be a good thing, but once it happens, the relationship dynamic can change, and not always for the better.
Another reason men pull away in the early stages of dating is because some men just aren’t ready for a serious relationship. If they get the feeling that things are moving too fast, they will start to pull back. Other men are just looking to have a good time, and once they get what they want, they are no longer interested.
The real trick is finding someone who really wants a serious relationship, and someone who doesn’t get you to play games. If you’re dating a guy and things seem to be going great, and he suddenly starts backing off, you need to speak up and say something about it. Confronting a man about this can be awkward, but if he’s really interested in you, he’ll want to work things out. If he just ignores your feelings and tells you there’s nothing to worry about, or if he gets mad and starts fighting, he still wasn’t the right man for you and it’s best to end that relationship and move on. If that’s the case, at least it happened in the early stages of the relationship, before things got too serious.