Relationships: Can a relationship bring up emotions that were frozen?

If someone is not in a relationship, you may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and rarely overwhelmed by their emotions.

Being like this will naturally make it easier for them to function at their best and enjoy life. If they were often emotionally flat or out of it with how they feel, it would be much more difficult for them to experience a fulfilling life.

Balanced

In general, one could say that one will not be controlled by their emotions and will not try to push them out of their consciousness. As a result of this, the people in your life might see you as calm and emotionally in tune.

Also, it may not be uncommon for others to open up to them about challenges in their own life. This will come down to the fact that these people will know that you will be able to handle what they have to share.

A new beginning

However, if they started seeing someone, they may find that their inner world begins to change. It may not be a minor change either, as they could have moments where they are very unstable.

Because of how they were before, they may have difficulty understanding what is happening to them. However, thanks to how strong these emotions are, it will not be possible for them to continue normally.

First days

What can also confuse them is if they have only known this person for a short time; so it’s not like there was a reason for them to feel this way. It may seem that your emotional part is out of control.

This may not be as far as it goes, as they could experience even more internal discomfort as the weeks and months go by. One might even get to the point where they wonder if they are with the right person.

conflict

One part of them may feel connected to their partner and appreciate their company, but another part may be having a very different experience. What they do next may depend on how conscientious they are.

If they lack a certain level of self-awareness, they might end up withdrawing from their partner, seeing them as the problem. The discomfort within them will be so strong that they will not be able to hear the other part of them.

A short term solution

Taking this route might allow you to gradually settle back down, but what it won’t do is allow you to experience a deeper connection with someone. So even if they feel better, it won’t make up for the pain and even regret they’re likely to experience in the long run.

What they may find, if they were to start another relationship, is that the same thing happens all over again. If so, this may allow them to see that what is happening is not the problem.

stay with it

Conversely, if one is able to step back and not get caught up in how they feel, they may wonder why so much is going on inside of them. One thing they could do is talk to a close friend about what is happening to them.

What this friend can tell you is that the emotional pain from your past seems to have surfaced. The person they are with will simply have triggered what was already inside of them.

an analogy

One way to understand what has happened would be to imagine that a series of items have been frozen in ice. When the ice is frozen, these items cannot be seen, but if the ice melts, the items will become visible.

Similarly, the emotions within them were frozen in their body, and by experiencing another person’s warmth, this ice began to melt. What this has done is start to release emotions that were stuck.

Confusion

Now, if someone believes that their thoughts create their feelings, it can be difficult for them to accept this. What you can come to see is that this is not the whole truth, being much more than this.

The emotional pain that is thawing, so to speak, can go back to what happened at the beginning of your life. What this will show is how long it has been in your body and that time alone will not make this pain go away.

The time has come

One way of looking at what is happening would be to say that one is ready to face this pain; if they were not, it would not have arisen. So it may be difficult for them to accept this as they are suffering so much, but this will be a time when they are given the opportunity to become more whole and whole.

This pain would also have had an effect on your resonance/vibration, and it would have taken a lot of energy to keep it out of your awareness. Overcoming this pain will allow you to feel better, change your energy footprint and give you more energy.

Awareness

If one can relate to this and is ready to work through their pain, they may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be done with the help of a therapist or healer.