How to flirt with a cougar woman or a cub man
So you’ve seen your ideal cougar woman or cub boy at the bar and walked up to them. You have started chatting and the two of you are beginning to smile. The person makes eye contact, touches their chest, plays with their hair, and even laughs at your jokes (even if they aren’t that funny!). You feel a surge of confidence, because you know that he is flirting with you. How do you know? Because you have learned to read their body language and use it to your advantage.
Flirting is easy!
Flirting is simply a way of letting the other person know that you are interested in them. Plus, it’s fun. It’s probably the most fun part of dating a cougar woman or cub. As you both flirt, you can feel if there is chemistry between you.
Flirting unmasked
Flirting will probably come naturally to you, at least to some degree. You may find yourself smiling at the other person, capturing their attention, finding reasons to touch their arm. All of these things are natural parts of flirting. If you flirt at the right time, with someone who is flirting with you, it can be a real encouragement and a great indicator that both of you want to date or flirt. However, if you don’t read the signs or go off flirting with someone who isn’t really interested, you may end up looking silly and the cougar woman or cub boy will probably want to get away from you as quickly as possible.
Don’t worry, if you are looking for a simple flirting body language you are sure to get it right and you can use these behaviors yourself to flirt with him / her.
1. Smiling – Yes, it is simple and you will probably do it right away when you meet someone new, but if the other person really smiles a lot, it is a good sign that they are comfortable around you.
2. Playing with hair – You may notice that the person (mainly cougars in this case) is touching or stroking their hair. They can wrap it around their finger or play with it.
3. Touching or licking lips – If the person rubs their lips with their fingers or wets their lips with their tongue, they are unconsciously trying to draw attention to the area so that you can think about kissing.
4. Reflecting you – You may find that the person you are flirting with reflects what you are doing. This is subtle and they won’t copy everything you do, but they may have a drink at the same time as you or brush their hair off their faces at the same time as you. You can find yourself doing the same. When two people do this, they are in sync and begin to feel comfortable with each other.
5. Dilated pupils – People have been shown to dilate their pupils when they see something that interests them.
6. Legs or feet pointing towards you – They can lean towards you and a cougar woman can have her legs crossed. Look down to see if the person’s shoes are pointing at you.
7. Touching the chest or pushing the chest out – Cougar women can draw attention to their cleavage by playing with a necklace or stroking their chest. You can also push your chest forward. Men will also push their chest forward to make them appear wider.
8. Sitting with legs spread – Just as females can cross their legs and point them towards you, male puppies can sit with their legs spread apart, drawing attention to their area and showing that they are comfortable with you.
9. Arched eyebrows – when someone does this, they show interest. You may also notice a rapid movement of the eyes, or even a wink if they are not so subtle.
10. Laughing at your jokes – If the person laughs and generally seems to be having a good time, then they are enjoying your company.
11. Touching you – The cougar or cub you are flirting with can use any excuse to touch you. While they laugh at your joke, they might come over and touch your arm, or pull a hair out of your eyes.
12. Personal questions – As the person directs the conversation to more personal areas, they may even ask if you are single. This may be a good time to exchange phone numbers.
For everyone, flirting is different. For some it is easy and for others they can be quite nervous. Cougar females are generally more experienced at flirting than young cubs, so don’t worry if you feel a little out of reach at first. Try to be confident and smile. Smiling is a great start and will make you more attractive to the other person. Never use cheesy chat lines and don’t go overboard with tapping at this stage. Let the other person feel comfortable around you. If you have noticed that he flirts with other people, he may be a flirtatious person and not the ideal person to ask on a date. You will soon be able to figure this out when you start talking to them.